Domme on Demand: Bring BDSM into your bedroom in a way that feels authentic to you

You might be here because

You and your partner already have something good. You love each other, and the relationship works. There's a quieter question that keeps surfacing: about desire, about power, about what's possible between the two of you that you haven't explored yet. You're not looking to fix anything. You're looking to add something. To deepen, to play, to find out what's there.

Maybe one of you brought up a curiosity and the other received it warmly, and now you're both wondering what to do next. Maybe you've been reading, listening, watching from the edge of this world for a while, and you're ready to actually step in, but you don't want to step in alone. You want someone with you. Not because anything is missing. Because having an expert guide in the room changes everything: it keeps you grounded, it keeps you honest, it keeps you in your body, it keeps you moving forward.

Or you've already begun, and you've reached the place where you can feel there's more available than you've been able to access on your own. Scenes that almost land but don't quite. A dynamic that's hot but unsafe, or safe but flat. The sense that there's a deeper kind of erotic intelligence here, and you want a teacher who can actually witness what you're doing and help you go further.

What I offer is the full arc. I help you speak the desires you haven't yet found the words for. I design custom scenes for your specific dynamic. I teach the techniques and the psychology. I observe and coach as you play, and I help you integrate what came up after, so it lands in the body, not just the head. The work is rigorous, attentive, insightful, non-judgmental, and unhurried. And it's never imposed. My job is to show you what BDSM can look like for you, the version that's authentic to the two of you, and bring it into your bedroom in a way that feels like yours.

Nicolle, practitioner of Domme on Demand

The practitioner

Nicolle is a Certified Therapeutic BDSM Educator and a Certified Kink-Conscious Professional. As a lifestyle dominatrix, she has spent the last seven years learning how to integrate BDSM into a full life rather than working out of a dungeon.

She is uniquely positioned to help couples bring this practice into their own lives, where kink is one beautiful thread of a relationship and not the whole fabric of an identity. She came to this work by accident. After years of feeling like something essential was missing, something she couldn't name, she discovered BDSM, and for the first time in her life felt complete. What began as personal practice became a calling. She founded an organization that has introduced hundreds of women to BDSM and is a guest lecturer at the University of British Columbia on its history and therapeutic potential. She is the author of Oh, the Places You'll Go on On!, a book about the power of pleasure written in Dr. Seuss-style verse, and is currently writing Both Sides of the Slash, a forthcoming book on the healing power of BDSM.

I'm a practitioner, not a third participant in your relationship. The work I do is in service of the energy between you and your partner: designing it, deepening it, helping you both find a vocabulary for what you want from each other. I'm in the room as an educator. The intimacy is yours.

What I offer

Five doors.

Each engagement begins with an inquiry and a free 30-minute discovery call. We choose the right door together.

01 / Begin

Scene Development Package

The full arc, in three sessions. First, the Desire Map, where we surface what you actually want, including the things you haven't yet had the words for. Then, the scene build, where we design a custom scene tailored to your dynamic. Then, integration: after you've run it, we process what came up. Start to end, I'm with you.

A Good Ember kit can be added ahead of our work. Ask on the discovery call.

$600

02 / Coached

Live Coached Scene

Everything in the Scene Development Package, plus I'm there live. We do the Desire Map and the scene design together, then I guide you over live video as you execute the scene, observing and coaching in real time. We close with an integration session afterward. The signature offering, and the place most couples begin.

A Good Ember kit can be added ahead of our work. Ask on the discovery call.

From $1,500

03 / Deepen

The Practice

A monthly container. One Live Coached Scene per month, an integration call, weekly written assignments, weekly voice notes, video teachings, and ongoing async access. Where the real work happens.

Three-month minimum. Many couples begin with a Live Coached Scene first, then enter The Practice from there.

From $2,500/mo

04 / Men

Coaching for Men

A one-month container for men working privately with a Domme on their own development. Four weekly sessions, written assignments between, async access for questions. Two paths:

Learning to Dominate

For the man who wants to lead in his own bedroom and doesn't yet have a map. Psychology, embodiment, and technique, taught directly.

Learning to Submit

For the man who wants to explore submission in a non-judgmental, trained container. Self-knowledge, embodiment, and the craft of receiving.

From $2,000

05 / In-person

Bring Me to Your Bedroom

The full arc, with me physically present for the scene itself. We begin virtually with the Desire Map and scene design. Then I fly to you for the centerpiece, a 6-hour evening immersion in your space, with live in-person coaching as the scene unfolds. I bring the tools and the technique. We integrate in person the following day, and close with a second integration call two weeks after, to process what continues to unfold.

Available for one couple, or for up to three couples gathered together. Group engagements and special occasions are custom-scoped on the discovery call. Some couples host me at home; others prefer to rent a getaway. Either works.

Double the Domme is a specialized package available for larger events, multi-couple gatherings, or special occasions. Two of us in the room rather than one means more demonstrations, more individualized coaching across the group, and a richer scene architecture than a single practitioner can hold alone. Scoped on the discovery call.

From $7,500
+ travel

Common questions

Most people want to know.

Is this therapy?+

No. I'm an educator and practitioner, not a therapist. The work is somatic, relational, and psychologically informed, but if what you need is clinical mental health support, I'll say so and refer you.

Are you a sex worker? Will you play with me or my partner?+

No. I teach, design, observe, and coach. I'm not a participant in your scenes. I'm a guide for them. The intimacy and sex remain entirely between you and your partner.

My partner isn't sure. Can I still inquire?+

Yes. One partner being further along than the other is completely normal. Part of what I do is help you find a way to talk to each other about this. If your partner is open to a conversation, we can begin.

I'm a man and I want to work with you privately, before bringing this to my partner. Is that an option?+

Coaching for Men is built exactly for this. For the man who wants to learn the craft on his own first, whether that's learning to dominate or learning to submit. Two paths, same one-month container, same private and judgment-free space. Many men begin here and bring their partner into the work later when the foundation feels solid.

We've never done anything BDSM before. Is this for us?+

Especially for you. Beginners benefit most from working with someone experienced, because the early scenes are when habits and patterns get set. The Scene Development Package is designed exactly for couples beginning here.

Is this confidential?+

Completely. I never share client identities, stories, or details. Anything I write or speak about publicly is either entirely my own experience or fully anonymized with permission.

Do you work with same-sex or non-monogamous couples?+

Yes. Couples can be any configuration: two women, two men, mixed, polyamorous structures. The work adapts to who's in the room.

Do we need any equipment? What if we don't have anything at home?+

Many early scenes use only what you already have. But if you'd like beautiful, body-safe gear delivered ahead of time, I work in partnership with Good Ember, a Canadian subscription box for couples. We can discuss it on the discovery call and choose what fits your scene, or order on your own and let me know what's coming.

I just have a quick question, or something I want to work through right now. Do I have to book a full session?+

Two options. The first is a Drop-in Call. 30 minutes, $75, one direct answer. No prep, no follow-up. Same-day booking is available if there's something on your mind you want to work through right away. Book a Drop-in →

The second, and the better deal if you have lots of questions: my paid Substack tier at $50/year, which includes a private WhatsApp group and weekly AMAs where I answer questions live. Subscribe →

I want a deeper conversation, but not a scene. Do you offer that?+

The Desire Map is also available as a standalone: a 75-minute conversation, $300, where we surface and articulate what you (or you both) actually want. Many couples begin here when they're not yet sure what they're looking for.

How explicit does this get? Is anything off the table?+

The work goes wherever your desires take it, within the limits we negotiate together. I'll be direct and non-judgemental in conversation about whatever you bring. What's off the table for me: anything illegal, anything involving minors, and anything where genuine consent isn't possible. Beyond that, this is your erotic life. I'm here to help you live it more fully.

How do I know if I'm ready?+

If you've read this far, you're ready enough. Readiness isn't experience. It's curiosity and willingness to begin a conversation. The discovery call is exactly for figuring out what's right for you and where to start.

Bring BDSM into your bedroom in a way that feels authentic to you.